Let’s Make It Real.
Your clarity call starts here.
Start with a free call to pinpoint what’s keeping you stuck and map your path to freedom.
​This 3-step process is completely free.
No pressure, no commitment.
The answers are already inside you.
Step 1: Reserve Your Spot
Pick a time that works for you — and take the first aligned step toward real change.
It’s quick, simple, and just a few clicks — and
you’re on the calendar.
Step 2: Intro Chat
We’ll have a quick, relaxed conversation to get to know each other. You’ll share what’s going on, and I’ll give you a sense of the space I hold — so we can see if this is a good fit.
Step 3: Deep-Dive Session
In this free follow-up, we’ll explore your challenge, its roots, and what you want.
You’ll get a feel for how I work, and we’ll map a next step. Ask anything.
No pressure. Just clarity.
Get clear on what’s true for you and live with authentic freedom.
The Early Scripts We Carry
How childhood patterns shape your present — and how to rewrite them.
Childhood Doesn’t Stay in the Past.
Our early experiences shape how we relate to love, safety, and self-worth.
Even as adults, we often respond from old scripts — like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or staying small.
These aren’t flaws — they’re imprints.
These patterns can be understood.
And they can be rewritten.
Approval-Seeking
Fear of Disappointing Others
Conflict Avoidance
Hyper-Independence
Difficulty Setting Boundaries
Emotional Numbness
Chronic Guilt
Some of the patterns we carry most often.
Self-Abandonment
Saying yes when you mean no — to stay safe or keep the peace.
Inadequacy
Feeling like you’re never enough — no matter how hard you try.
Demanding Attitude
Always pushing — to avoid feeling powerless.
Excessive Standards
Striving to be exceptional — never feeling like it’s enough.
You don’t have to stay stuck.
​But you have the power to change the story.
This is your time to break free.
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
100% clarity score jump in 12 weeks
“I sleep at night instead of replaying the day.”
— Aiden T.
You still say yes when your gut screams no, then replay it in your head all night.
You binge self‑help videos every weekend, yet Monday morning feels exactly the same.​
You wonder if something’s wrong with you for still feeling stuck.
TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE —STARTING NOW
No more “someday.”
In 12 weeks, we’ll heal the roots, set guilt-free boundaries, and map a bold path forward — together.
I’m Steffen
Clarity Guide.
Boundary Builder.
Recovering People-Pleaser.
You’re not broken — you’ve just been following scripts that were never yours.
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I left a career that looked good on paper but drained me every day.
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I walked away from a marriage that no longer fit the person I was becoming.​
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These weren’t breakdowns,
They were breakthroughs.
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Now I use the same tools that helped me set boundaries and move forward with clarity and purpose.​
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Curious how I got here?
Stop chasing strategies. Start listening to yourself.
Real voices.
Real shifts.
This is what happens when you stop holding back — and start showing up for yourself.
Everything changes the moment you stop abandoning yourself.
Break Free: For Good
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Uncover the root causes of the habits and feelings that keep pulling you off course. Through honest conversation and proven tools, you’ll learn to:
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Face fear with grounded confidence
Stop people-pleasing for good
Reclaim your energy​
Most of all, you’ll come home to calm, confidence, and clarity.
HERE'S WHAT THESE LIFE-LEADERS SAY...
"Before working with Steffen, I didn’t even realize how much of my life was shaped by the fear of disappointing others.
I kept saying yes to everything
and slowly lost myself in the process.
Coaching with him helped me set boundaries I never thought I could.
For the first time in years,
I feel like I’m finally living my life—not someone else’s."
— Julia, 34, San Diego
"I came to Steffen after a job loss and a brutal breakup.
I felt invisible — like I had no say in my own life.
Coaching helped me stop trying to prove myself to people who were never going to see me.
I started making choices for me — and it changed everything.
I’ve got a new role now, better boundaries, and way more self-respect."
— Marcus, 38, Oakland
"I used to overthink everything — terrified of making the wrong move and letting people down.
Steffen helped me reconnect with my gut — not someone else’s rules, not perfection, just my truth.
I made decisions I’d been avoiding for years.
And for the first time, I don’t feel lost. I feel powerful."
— Elena, 43, Seattle
Storms We’ve Weathered Together
Real-life struggles—seen, felt, transformed.
People-pleasing hangover​​​
You keep saying “yes” while screaming “no” inside then wonder why you’re left feeling resentful, depleted, and disconnected.
Turns out, those old approval scripts are still quietly running the show.
Co-parenting after divorce
Two homes, two sets of rules, one exhausted parent caught in the middle. You love your kids fiercely but feel like a shuttle bus for guilt and logistics. It’s time to set firm boundaries and rebuild calm for everyone involved.​​​​
Career identity crisis​
Lonely in the Crowd
Fifteen years into a “good job” and suddenly the title feels like someone else’s. You swing between fear of wasting your experience and dread of staying stuck. Let’s audit your strengths and design work that actually fuels you.
Calendar packed, group chats buzzing, yet you feel unseen. Surface conversations can’t fill the deeper well you’re craving. Together we’ll cultivate real connection and carve space for relationships that nourish.​
Struggling with something?
"It takes as much effort
to live a crappy life as it does to live a great one."
— Gary John Bishop